Pssssttt .... Listen!

"... and you are listening to oz one ow three ef em ..." - a radio announcer in bandung
"i don't know where you going and i don't know why ... Listen to your heart ... " - song by roxette

Above are example of sentence using a word listen in a daily life.

What it listen ? Listen according to wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn
- hear with intention; "Listen to the sound of this cello"
- listen and pay attention; "Listen to your father"; "We must hear the expert before we make a decision"
- heed: pay close attention to; give heed to; "Heed the advice of the old men"

from all of the explanation above , we can see that listen is not the same as hear , but more. It requires :
... paying attention
... pay close attention,
... with intention
see, it is not just giving your ear ...

from time to time i've been reminded by situations, friends, family, wife ... that this is one of the important skills that need to learn, ... i mean really really need to learn.

I don't know why, but I tend to have a framework of everything in my head when hearing people speak, it can be argument, it can be thinking what is he/she thinking while saying it, or even a blank framework ( Ngalamun mun ceuk urang sunda mah) .
So as a result, the conclusion is not coming from what is the person saying but .. a conclusion from my own head and bits from what actually the person saying.
To most people, this kind of behaviour is really annoying , the rest of the people ,... this is even more annoying since this make others feel that i'm not listening to them

For you, listening might be easy. Believe me! i feel the same way too
I think have understand , I think i have listen , but when I think i have listen enough, ...eventually it is not.

So in a spirit of continous improvement, today I will (again) refresh my brain, get set and listen!

PS :
For those who would also like to learn how to be a good listener can check this out!

Yuk ...

For the road you've chosen to travel with me.

I know its not easy.

I Thank you

For facing all the confusion, and yet you're still here

I Thank you

For all of the understanding

I Thank you

For believing in me

I Thank you

For Not giving up on me

I Thank you

For all the effort you have made.

I know you've tried so hard

I Thank you

For God's gift to my heart

I love you.

WORK-LIFE BALANCE : A VERY SHORT & MOST EFFECTIVE SPEECH...

30 second Speech by Bryan Dyson,CEO of Coca-Cola

"Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls inthe air. You name them - Work, Family, Health, Friends and Spirit and you're keeping all of these in the Air.

You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it,it will bounce back.

But the other four Balls - Family, Health, Friends and Spirit - aremade of glass. If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered.

They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for it."

I can exclude you!

Pas taun baru kemaren gw ama Audi pergi ke Filipin untuk hadir di kawinan temen baik kita Monica Alcid dan Andrew Varona. Mereka orang Filipin. Congrats to you both

Belajar dari Melaka Trip. Sekarang semua paspor n tiket, gw yg pegang hehehehe

Dari pertama berangkat, kita udah expect kalo Negara ini kurang lebih kayak Indonesia, sama sama pengekspor pembantu rumah tangga, tampang Melayu dan saling susul susulan dalam peringkat Negara yg paling banyak koruptornya di dunia. Berita terakhir sih nyebutin , kita yg menang .Juara .

Eniwei, gw mau cerita tentang imigrasi . Imigrasi di airport itu, kalau di restoran mungkin seorang greeter kali ya … kalo di hotel mungkin receptionist lah.
Mereka adalah orang yg paling pertama kita temuin, sebelum kita masuk ke sebuah Negara. Kalo migrasinya bagus ya bisa lo harap negaranya bagus, sebaliknya kalo imigrasinya sucks, u better be careful. Jadi Imigrasi itu cerminan negaranya.

Ya kyk singapur misalnya.. masuk imigrasi di Changi . Ketat tapi efisien , ga banyak pemeriksaan aneh, asal paperworks lo beres ya mereka ga rese. Nah begitu lo masuk negaranya juga gitu .. mereka banyak aturan . tapi negaranya efisien.
Coba lo ke Delhi atau Mumbai .. lo dicek 6 sampe 7 kali oleh petugas2 yg berbeda beda dengan checking yg sama. Tiket, passport , baju dkk .. dan begitu lo masuk negaranya ya, lo tau sendiri … padat karya..

Eniwei . Kita ke Manila naek Cebupacific , jadi masuk ke terminal yg baru .. keren lah lumayan,

Pas ngantri imigrasi , kita ngeliat ada petugas imigrasinya badannya gede abis men , lebih mirip bouncer daripada petugas imigrasi. Klo lo dulu suka liat WWF , ini orang mirip yg namanya Rikishi.

Ada nih ya, orang yg bingung karena ada document yg ga jelas .. di imigrasinya malah diomelin nih sama si Riki .. bilang lo ga communicate lah , ga jawab pertanyaannya. Sambil nadanya tinggi gitu . padahal ya menurut gw ga perlu kyk gitu, dia cuman bingung.

Yang paling maksimal ada di antrian paling pojok kiri :

Ada seorang bule lagi ngantri, kyknya sih surfer … cuman badannya ga gede2 banget, ada tato naga di punggungnya, trus dia pake kaos kutung . rambut panjang kriting diiket … idung mancung, kyknya sih orang itali atau sepanyol gt karena bahasa inggrisnya aga ga jelas …

Pas giliran dia ketemu ama petugas imigrasinya , si Petugas Imigrasinya nanya :
“Is it your first time here ..?”
Si bule ga jawab, dia ngeliat ke si petugas imigrasinya aja .. kayaknya si agak bingung, ga tau ga kedengeran kali
Si petugas Imigrasinya nanya lagi ..
“Are you often traveling ..?”
Si Bule coba ngedengerin dan kali ini dia jawab ..
“Hmm… yes”


Trus terjadilah sebuah keadaan yg pertama kali gw liat di sebuah immigration border :

Petugas imigrasi tadi tiba2 berdiri … pasang tampang siap berantem dan nunjuk muka si Bule !

“Hey ..! Why are u starring at me like that ..!!!!!!!!!”
“I’m an immigration officer! I can exclude you!”
…
Si Bule bengong kaget ga tau apa yg terjadi ..
Si Petugas Imigrasi sekali lagi ngebentak ..”
“I’m an immigration officer! I can exclude you!!!!!”
“You’re being disrespectful!!!!!!
“We have a special room here .. we can have a fight!!!!!”
(Parah ni, petugas imigrasi aja ngajak berantem . gimana di jalan2 yak ..?)

Trus si Rikishi nambahin lagi
“ Send Him Back ….!!! He Needs to learn”
( Needs to learn apa coba, ini bule cuman ga kedengeran aja si petugas imigrasi ngomong apa .. cuman si petugas jadi napsu gitu .. parah)

Audi sih bilang ini gara2 jam 5 pagi jadinya semua emosi , mungkin juga sih.

Trus bener ga kalo imigrasi itu cermin negaranya ..? hmmmm … lo dateng aja sendiri deh kesana .. . btw ati2 juga taxi dari bandaranya suka nipu hehehhe.

escalator

I miss batam airport ... , its freakin expensive soto with no taste , the 75 thousand taxi ride to the ferry terminal
... gosh .. after all the half day journey it eventually cost more than a direct flight ! hahahah! freak!

I miss the ferry terminal ... the custom, the waiting room, the quite nice nasi goreng seafood restaurant while waiting to depart ...

I miss the ferry ... the wind, and the anxious feeling ...

I miss escalator ... and how i always stand one step lower to be in the same height ...

I miss nasi briyani ... and of course teh tarik ... the taste, the large portion, how it feels in my mouth after that, and washed up by the hot teh tarik ... warm.

I miss cooking nasi goreng, scrambled egg, sausage , or whatever you can find in the fridge

I miss the e ticket used to get in to the airport check in , when i'm actually not going .. lately is even better ... i got passport ;)

I miss waking up early and catch the 1st MRT to airport ...

I miss leaving the office running to catch X trans to the airport ...

I miss X trans bookings ... seat 9 and 10

I miss waiting in terminal 2D ...

I miss browsing jetstar, airasia, tiger, lion ...

I miss stopping at my nearest warung, or atm or whatever to top up my 3 number...

I miss the sound of my flexi phone ...

I miss walking at esplanade basement , and found out that the artwork is still the same ..

I miss getting on a shuttle bus in the middle of the nite and continue to get NR bus ...

I miss ikea ... the 29 m2, and all the arguments ...

I miss a lot of things ... and oh ya .. almost forgot ...



Happy Anniversary.